simple help needed with html media player & streaming

I simply want 2 stream on my website
i found a standard wmp in html-player inserts fine+shows on page buttons work etc

but i simply cannot play anything on it
in the player html(i looked at several) all have a section roughly sayin the same
"insert media file path or stream url here"

inbetween " & " -then delete the insert media file path or stream url here bit

infuriatingly NONE of these html players hav 1 iota of instruction
do you insert+remove "" do you put the full url?
if url is
wwwdotwatchingfruitbatsmatingdotcom/2725

do you insert the WHOLE url? a portion
given html can be the difference of 1 charactor between success+failure it beggars belief that there are no instructions
have posted the few i tried below-thanks in advancve if anyone can help me,cheers

1st one was this
<OBJECT id="VIDEO" width="320" height="240"
style="position:absolute; left:0;top:0;"
CLASSID="CLSID:6BF52A52-394A-11d3-B153-00C04F79FAA6"
type="application/x-oleobject">

<PARAM NAME="URL" VALUE="your file or url">
<PARAM NAME="SendPlayStateChangeEvents" VALUE="True">
<PARAM NAME="AutoStart" VALUE="True">
<PARAM name="uiMode" value="none">
<PARAM name="PlayCount" value="9999">
</OBJECT>

^^works+shows up buttons work but simply cannot input a url

2nd one --

<SELECT name=selecta size=1 id=musica onchange=document.all.playera.Filename=document.al l.musica.value;>
<OPTION selected>::::::::: Choose Your Media Sample Here :::::::::</OPTION>
<OPTION value="Stream URL or Full File Path Goes Here">My Video File </OPTION>
<OPTION value="Stream URL or Full File Path Goes Here">My Audio File</OPTION>
<OPTION value="Stream URL or Full File Path Goes Here">My Live Stream</OPTION>
</select>
<BR>
<OBJECT id=playera height=230 width=230 classid=clsid:22D6F312-B0F6-11D0-94AB-0080C74C7E95>
<PARAM NAME="AutoStart" VALUE="True">
<PARAM NAME="Balance" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="DisplaySize" VALUE="True">
<PARAM NAME="Filename" VALUE="">
<PARAM NAME="Mute" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="SelectionStart" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="SelectionEnd" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="ShowControls" VALUE="True">
<PARAM NAME="ShowAudioControls" VALUE="True">
<PARAM NAME="ShowDisplay" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="ShowPositionControls" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="Volume" VALUE="1">
<PARAM NAME="AudioStream" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="AutoSize" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="AnimationAtStart" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="AllowScan" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="AllowChangeDisplaySize" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="AutoRewind" VALUE="True">
<PARAM NAME="BaseURL" VALUE="">
<PARAM NAME="BufferingTime" VALUE="5">
<PARAM NAME="CaptioningID" VALUE="">
<PARAM NAME="ClickToPlay" VALUE="True">
<PARAM NAME="CursorType" VALUE="0">
<PARAM NAME="CurrentPosition" VALUE="True">
<PARAM NAME="CurrentMarker" VALUE="True">
<PARAM NAME="DefaultFrame" VALUE="mainframe">
<PARAM NAME="DisplayBackColor" VALUE="True">
<PARAM NAME="DisplayForeColor" VALUE="16777215">
<PARAM NAME="DisplayMode" VALUE="1">
<PARAM NAME="Enabled" VALUE="-1">
<PARAM NAME="EnableContextMenu" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="EnablePositionControls" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="EnableFullScreenControls" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="EnableTracker" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="InvokeURLs" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="Language" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="PlayCount" VALUE="1">
<PARAM NAME="PreviewMode" VALUE="False">
<PARAM NAME="ShowStatusBar" VALUE="True">
<PARAM NAME="TransparentAtStart" VALUE="False">
</OBJECT>

^^this has a drop down menu for vid/audio or live stream-this has 4 lines of "inserts" again no instructions do you fill all the gaps,one?

This is the only thing stopping me id be grateful for any help
i have a reasonable lappy+desktop & i tested urls & streams from justin/atdhe+ustream.I have tried to insert the url manually b4 i insert 2 the website(via thier add gadget html thing)i also tried to add by editing the html box,neither works-im either a complete nana or have made a major error-im sure its somethin small ive overlooked makin me a total nana-ill accept that if someone can help me fix it! lol
Cheers